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Finding Your “No”

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Someone said to me a long time ago that you can’t have a true “yes” until you have claimed your “no.” This makes so much sense to me now but at the time I can’t say that I fully understood it.  In my childhood I was definitely a pleaser and always looked for ways not to rock the boat. I really didn’t have an example of how to just say “no,” who did?  It seems to me that no one I knew actually felt entitled to say no so if they did have the courage to put it out there it always had an edge like it needed to be explained or defended in some way. 

What about that force that exists in each of us that either pulls us toward or repels us away that is so natural?  All living beings have it and it’s so simple and pure.  We are drawn toward or repelled away from situations, objects, foods, choices and it can go on and on. You can easily that see that babies and young children always do this quite naturally.  They instinctively  sense what is just arising within them and follow it without worrying so much about how it’s received by the world around them. 

I see this playing out so naturally in my cats for example. They move through the life as they wish without the external pressure of having to be a certain way. We accept them on their own terms and it’s one of the things that all cat owners know and love about their furry friends.  They cannot be controlled nor would a real cat person ever even try. We love them for who they are and all the while we are learning how to put our expectations, attachments and agendas aside. 

Unlike the natural world we are often taught to override our inherent internal navigation system and do the “right” thing.  As a result our pure impulses can be subtle to non existent and burried deep within.  They never completely disappear and we can learn to strengthen those neglected muscles. Our instinctive and intuitive knowing comes forward most easily when we are done looking to the outer world for our direction and we are left with no other option other than to go within.  Our innate  power and wisdom is constantly calling to us and it is there for us when we are ready.

Saying “yes” when you really feel a “no” is no way to live a life and yet so many of us are engaged in life in this way.  Feeling “no” about the work we do, “no” about our social obligations, “no” about what we require of ourselves on a daily basis. Once we begin to observe our real feelings it can seem like we are so far outside ourselves that it’s an impossible journey back to our truth.  The thing that I love about the truth is that is has a resonance not only in you but in the world as well.   Even a hard truth that rings true can be easily and seamlessly received by others.  When you are true to yourself  you are being authentic and you give whose around you the opportunity to really know you, the real you.   You no longer have to hold up the perfect lovable projected image of yourself that is exhausting.  You also give others permission to just be themselves.  Other people feel where you’re coming from and are just more comfortable and relaxed around you knowing that you will tell it like it is.   

So go ahead and give yourself the opportunity to just be yourself try saying “no” when you feel “no” and see how it goes.  I’m not promising that some people won’t resist this change in you but I guarantee you will breathe a sigh of relief, have renewed energy and invigorate your true “yes.”  The perfect gift to yourself this holiday is to just feel more comfortable in your own skin.    

Don’t Worry be Happy…or not…

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It sounds so simple but it can create a lot pressure to think that you should always be happy!  In fact life is full of suffering, challenges and conflict that we have to learn how to deal with and not think something is wrong when these feelings come along.  

One of my teachers Amoda Maa says we have to accept the messiness of life.  I love this!!  Life is never going to line up with our view of how it should be and when we truly and deeply accept this truth it can be very freeing.  I’m not saying condone things that you feel are horribly wrong but resisting what is happening is also a pointless misuse of energy.  Resisting can cause stress and even more unhappiness.  Where did we ever get the idea that we should always be bright and cheerful?  This mistaken idea can actually contribute greatly to our suffering. 

Sometimes, however, accepting what feels unacceptable can feel like an insurmountable challenge.  There is one question to ask yourself.  Is there something in my power that I can do about this?  If there is then take the action that you feel is appropriate. If there isn’t then you have to accept that this is the world we live in and both the beautiful and ugly coexist side by side.  We have to choose consciously how we wish to be in this imperfect world.  Am I going to let it get the best of me or am I going to learn how to navigate and stay open to it all? Allowing all my feelings to flow freely through me to the best of my ability.  It doesn’t work anyway to try and shut them down or protect against them and only serves to block us physically and energetically.  

I’m not making light of serious physical or emotional abuse when the feelings are strong and destabilizing.  It’s still important not to deny them but working with someone to help you face these things can make all the difference. 

Life is meant to challenge us and force us to grow in ways we would never willingly choose.  When we are forced by circumstance to open to a new way, something outside our comfort zone, it could just be the doorway to liberation that we have stumbled on.  So try not to label your your feelings as either good or bad, acceptable or unacceptable, happy or sad.   Welcome them all. 

You are More Powerful than You Know…

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I’m going to write a little bit about how energy works so for those of you new to energy and how it operates I am going to ask you to contemplate some of the ideas that I talk about in this blog.

Energy follows thought.  This one is pretty basic and it is in operation all the time.  We all use it whenever we want to manifest something in our lives.  For example when you are buying a new car it all starts with an initial thought and from there you move through a process until ultimately you end up with the car of your choosing.  It also works when we don’t want it to when we have negative thoughts that we feed through our attention.  This can also create an opposing energy and slow down the things we do want to manifest in our lives. 

Higher vibrations automatically consume lower ones.  What does this mean?  It means that the energy of love, compassion, empathy and gratitude overpower the energy of fear, hate, judgment, division and so on.  These are some of the highest vibrations that human beings have access to and when we are focused in this way the lower frequencies cannot survive or come to you.  Try it out and you will see what I mean.  It can’t be conjured or fake though it has to be the real deal.  Think about your child being born and that feeling of unconditional love that you felt.  This is the vibration that I am referring to.  When you feel it nothing can diminish it.   If the child is in danger you jump into action even if your own life could be threatened.  This is the power of the vibration of love and this is just one example.

These two energy principles alone are enough for the purposes of what I would like to share with you today.  It is imperative that we shift our attention and our thoughts away from the fear driven news of the day and into what we wish to see manifest on the planet now.  I for one do not want to dwell in news that puts me in a state of ongoing fear.  I have had enough for a life time.  Maybe you have too?  If so then you are ready to unplug from the lower vibrational energy and plug into the higher energies that are always available to you.  It’s not as hard as you might think.  

Simply coming into the present is one quick and easy way that Eckhart Tolle’ talks about all the time.  It is simple to do and most of the time it is enjoyable.  Think about it.  Most of the time not much is happening to us in the present moment.  Except when there is a crisis or emergency and then we have to deal with it in the present anyway so its the perfect place to hang out.  Another great place to practice presence is in nature or even with one special tree or plant.  Being fully present in or with nature can be instantly refreshing, restful and beautiful.  In those moments worries and fears do not exist.  It does take practice to eclipse your fears and worries with presence but it’s totally worth doing and you will reap the benefits very quickly.  Let me be clear I’m not saying to ignore danger or an imminent threat. I’m saying  be aware of negative thoughts and be sure that it is something you can deal with now.  If it’s not then no amount of thought or worry will be helpful and in fact will quickly sap you of energy.

Another easy way to raise your vibration is to focus on someone or something that you love unconditionally.  Like a child, a beloved pet or something that inspires awe.  Feel what this feels like in your body and focus on it and it will expand throughout your entire being.  This is not a Pollyanna principle its actually how energy works so you might as well use it to your advantage.  These are just two examples but there are so many more.  Listening to beautiful music, being grateful, cultivating compassion, being of help to someone who needs it.   I could go on and on but I think you get the idea. If you are feeling too burdened or bogged down to focus yourself this way don’t worry, it happens. The sooner you become aware the greater your opportunity is to show yourself some love and acceptance and this yet another way to vibrate higher.

I know that many of your don’t realize how much inherent power these small practices have. You will effect the people around you and even impact the planet for the better. Your vibration creates a ripple effect that goes out into the world and those ripples help to neutralize the negative low frequency energy that is all around us.  This is needed now more than ever!! 

We have a tremendous opportunity to transform and evolve to higher levels of consciousness but we need all hands on deck and you are playing a critical role. 

Shine your light brighter than ever. 

Resist or let go?

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Resistance, tensing up, saying “no” to what is or “no” to what is unfolding in the present moment.  We do it all the time when we don’t like, can’t deal or don’t want to face what is happening now.   I’m sure you know what I mean.

Sometimes we don’t know we are resisting but checking in with the body can reveal that tension is building. I guarantee it is playing out somewhere in your body.   Is the jaw or shoulders tight or painful?    How about your abdominal muscles or low back?   These are some very popular places where the body holds or braces itself against something undesirable.

We are taught that feeling good is more desirable than feeling bad but lets face it that isn’t how life works.  Everything will come at you; the good, the bad and the ugly and our job is to stay as clear as we can in the midst of it all.  

It’s good to keep in mind that resistance doesn’t actually do anything in the world. It doesn’t actually stop anything from happening.  What it does do is cause suffering.  The present moment will persist whether or not we resist it or flow with it. 

I love the spiritual teacher Michael Singer who wrote the book The Untethered Soul.  In it he says that you can become adept at noticing when the process of resistance kicks in.  He says, when you feel the body tense up make a conscious attempt to relax it.  Take a breath and let go and allow all the feelings to move through you.  When you do this the energy doesn’t build up in the body and cause physical or emotional suffering.  When you allow it you express it and feel it fully.  Then when it’s done it’s done instead of adding to the accumulated energy you are releasing it.  

Here is a quote from the The Untethered Soul:

“The Stuff that holds you down periodically rears its head.  When it does, let it go.  You simply permit the pain to come up into your heart and pass through.   If you do that, it will pass.  If you are sincerely seeing truth, you’ll let go every time.  This is the beginning and the end of the entire path – you surrender yourself to the process of emptying yourself.   When you work with this, you start to learn the subtler laws of the process of letting go.”

The part that takes some practice is noticing when you are beginning to resist because often we are caught in habitual behavior and initially it’s easy to miss.    Gradually you begin the process of freeing yourself and after a while you’ll notice that the body isn’t holding in the same old ways. 

What isn’t talked about a lot is that our accumulated baggage can weigh us down so much that we can’t see the world as it is, rather, we see the world as we are.  This can be a problem when life throws you a curve ball or tests come your way.   When you are consciously letting go you will just feel better in every way.   Just a small bonus for all your time and attention!  

The old saying what you resists persists should really say what you resist causes suffering in your body and mind…but it doesn’t have to!

 

The Rise of the Feminine (and she’s pissed)

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The Rise of the Feminine (and she’s pissed!!!)

Just kidding,  kind of…

Seriously we are being thrust into a new way of being and change is happening all over the world whether we like it or not.   This is generally how major transformation must take place because few if any would willingly enter into a process of total change.

Humanity and the earth has been out of balance for a long time and masculine energy has been dominant.  This is an opportunity for  feminine energy to rise up and as you can see and feel it is very different.  It is powerful and transformational and all of humanity is slowing down and unplugging from our usual activities.  This is a call to go inward and experience life differently.

Please watch this short video below to hear a little more about the rise of the feminine.